#7: What Discipline Really Means When You Stop Using Rewards and Punishments

#7: What Discipline Really Means When You Stop Using Rewards and Punishments IntroductionFor a long time, I thought discipline meant consequences.Not in a harsh way—just the standard, modern-parent version. Logical…

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#5: Why Behavior Charts Undermine Trust (and What Builds Responsibility Instead)

#5: Why Behavior Charts Undermine Trust (and What Builds Responsibility Instead) Introduction The behavior chart arrived in my child’s backpack on a Tuesday. Laminated. Colorful. Cheerful fonts. At the top,…

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#1 When “Good Job” Stops Working: Rethinking Rewards in Modern Parenting

When “Good Job” Stops Working: Rethinking Rewards in Modern Parenting IntroductionI still remember the morning I realized something felt off. We were rushing out of our New York apartment—shoes half…

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